We didn’t go to church on Sunday. We stayed home and slept in (ok, we stayed in our pajamas—since Pine’s triumphant arrival, he’s made sure we’ve greeted the sunrise every. single. dang. morning.). We read, drank coffee and goofed off (meaning Alex broke out his new Oculus Rift).
Later that day, we had a long casual lunch with my cousin who was in town and finished the day off celebrating one of our best friend’s birthday at a jovial cookout filled with laughter and excellent discussion.
And this was exactly the Sunday we needed.
Don’t get me wrong. We love our church (and God :P) and are highly involved. In fact, the cookout was with our dear church family. But sometimes you just need a break.
The past week whirred by with Alex flying out to L.A., our car giving us (its near constant) fits, a big (9 people came, but nonetheless it stressed me out :P) presentation at work, a couple of doctors appointments, plus all the “regular” stuff.
Alex flew home Saturday afternoon, and we headed to Pine’s best friend’s birthday party at a bounce house park. Boing! Then we screeched home in time to drop the kid off and head out to our 11th anniversary dinner at Benihana (Robbins’ tradition. Because, hibachi.)
So by the time Sunday rolled around, we needed a rest and we took it. And it was good.
If pursuing minimalism has taught me anything, it’s that if you over commit and don’t take care of yourself, you’re not going to be much help to anyone else. I’ve run myself into the ground trying to meet everyone else’s expectations—only to realize it wasn’t God’s plan—it was my compulsion.
So if you’re feeling run ragged, overwhelmed or just beat, consider these 4 things:
You are finite. It’s ok. You are! So am I. God knew what He was doing when He made us to need food and rest—when He only gave us 24 hours in a day. He knew! And the truth is, there is only so much you can do as one person to impact the world. You are a beautiful part of His plan—but you’re not THE plan. So relax in that.
Like “Yes?” Meet “No.” You can’t have “Yes,” without its good friend “No.” “No” is not a bad thing. “No” enables you to say “Yes” to the things you are truly called to do. “No” gives you the energy to give your best to your “Yes.” Embrace “No.” It doesn’t make you an unhelpful, bad, mean person. It makes you a more loving spouse. It makes you a better employee. A better friend. Just say “No.” Try it. You’ll like it. :)
It’s not a competition. We all know that person who seems like they can do it all. They are a V.P. at work, on 4 non-profit boards, serve at the homeless shelter, sing in the church choir, cook homemade meals, have popped out 5 kids au naturale, look hot all the time and their house is somehow spotless. Some people can do more and good for them—really. But that doesn’t mean you need to keep up. There’s no one keeping score or giving out gold stars. Let those people live their lives well and you live your life well. And those two lives may look very different.
Your time is just that. Yours. Other people have lots of ideas about how you should spend your time. They are very good at suggesting you to coach the team, bring snacks, host the event. Just because someone else thinks you should do something—doesn’t automatically mean you should (See Like “Yes,” meet “No.”) It’s super flattering to hear that others think you’re good at something or want your involvement—but it may not always contribute to your calling.
On the seventh day God had finished His work of creation,
so He rested from all His work. – Genesis 2:2
If God rested, I think He’ll be ok if you and I do, too. So take a day off, a real day off (not one where you cook, clean, pay bills and run errands. I know you. :) I am you.) The world will keep turning, and it’ll keep. Seriously, you’re not that important. ;P